Tag Archive: love

On Grieving: Through a Widow’s Eyes

Editor’s note: This testimony, and the four that follow, were sent to me by Marit Quist-Corbett over a series of several months.  Marit’s daughter, Caitlin, was the author of “On Grieving,” a six… Continue reading

On Widowhood, Part Two: The Anger March

March 2013 – Three years after.  The yearly rhythm of grief. I am angry angry angry angry. Is this the “Anger Stage”??????? I guess that’s what psychologists would say. But I don’t want… Continue reading

On Widowhood, Part Three: From Loneliness to Autonomy

“You are not alone”, my friends assured me after Bill died. They were wrong. You are alone. I am alone. However, there is a journey from desperate loneliness to the recognition of autonomy. This entry is about… Continue reading

On Grieving, Part One

I don’t talk about it much. The death of my father, I mean. In fact, the pattern I’ve noticed is that I only really talk about it when I am totally, completely, can’t-spell-my-own-face… Continue reading

On Grieving, Part 6: “Better”

We are better people when we try to live up to the expectations of the dead. I am a better person than I was before my grief. Not faster or stronger, nor happier… Continue reading


As far as being gay goes, I’ve had it pretty easy.  I grew up in a fairly liberal household in Canada.  I wouldn’t have been kicked out if I’d come out to my parents… Continue reading